• Natalie Shuler L.Ac MSOM

What makes you happy or sad?

Updated: Mar 30

Everyone has different things that make them happy or sad. What makes one person happy may not make another person feel the same way.

How do we know what makes us happy? Most people don't ask themselves on a daily basis what makes them happy or what makes them sad. We just tend to know. So why ask?

It's important to ask ourselves this question and bring conscious attention to what makes us happy and what makes us sad, not just give us a closer more defined understanding of our triggers but also so we can remind ourselves when we need to. Writing these two things down helps to build the skills necessary for self-understanding. Have you ever just gone along with the crowd and walked away feeling a little off? by understanding what makes us happy or sad we have a deeper understanding of ourselves and can shape and change our emotional life more easily.

What you'll need:

Start with two different sheets of paper:

  • On one paper, write or draw the things that make you happy.

  • On the second, writer or draw the things that make you feel sad.

You can make this as artistic as you want, add drawings, colors, stickers, glue things to it. Or just make is simple and make a list. There is no wrong way to do this!

Ideas of what to write:

Write things, people, places, and activities under each one. Write as many different things that come to mind without thinking too much. If it's hard for you to think of some things right away, no worries! You don't need to write the list all at one time. You can take your time over a span of a few days. Thinking of what makes you happy or sad and add it to your lists as you think of new things. Just make sure you choose a time in your created space to review what you have written down.

When you have your lists completed take a look at what you have written or drawn down. This list will help you be more aware of what triggers you have that make you feel happy or sad. You can share your happy and sad lists with your parents or you can keep it private, just for you.

This information is for you to understand yourself. I do recommend that if there is something that is overwhelming for you going over it with your parents or a trusted adult can be helpful in easing the stress.

Keep the happy list somewhere safe where you can find it when you aren’t feeling so great. It can be a reminder of what you can do or who you can reach out to when you want or need to feel better.